New Zealand has become the most recent country to permit gay marriage – good on ya mate! It seems to me that everyone else is taking that big step and having the happiest day of their life!! I have never really been into the idea of gay weddings – not so much anti it, just didn’t think its something I fancied – however after seeing these happen all over the place, I must admit, I’m a little envious. I look on and think, how lucky both parties are to have found that person and then to have a whole day dedicated to you and your partner – for me, I have a feeling (albeit a sentimental soft one) that it would be the happiest day of my life. All I seem to be missing is him, the “one”, Mr Right. Surely in a country that now permits the gays to marry, finding him cant be too difficult!
Well for those of you like me that are wondering exactly which corner he is around -impatience can often be a chain around the ankle.
We have all these apps, all these websites, all these bars (!), all these friends who want to set us up and is this a realistic way to find Mr Right? Who knows! Maybe. Well I am putting this to the test. And in order to be self reflecting and possibly cathartic I am going to document my travels and events! Every woof, every growl, every poke, every grind (Grinder needs something hey) every gay bar, straight bar, blind date, hook up, set up, every wink, every smiley face I will tell you all about it (with obvious name suppression). My review of what the City of Sails has to offer for us gay singles, on the “prowl”. Following a conversation with a psychologist friend of mine – this site was born!
About Me: (the more you fill out the better chance we have of finding your match) For anyone that has used dating apps, dating websites etc you may be a bit fed up with having to write one of these “about me” paragraphs – however as we travel down this yellow brick road of potential disastrous encounters I think you should know a little about me…..
I’m Dan (hence the blog name) I’m 32. Tall dark and handsome (in Pommy terms). A young professional with a good job in the healthcare world. Originally from Manchester in the UK – so I have an awful accent where I don’t pronounce the H’s and I swear too much but it is out balanced by my wonderful dry British humour. I’m a rugby league fan (go the warriors) I’m monogamous, a romantic and a mild control freak. I don’t really like animals (an understatement – I’m scared of all animals excluding dogs and wasps), and secretly think I may be superman (…and after re reading that – I’m a bit of a freak!!) See I’m one to bring back to see your mum surely, if she doesn’t mind the C-bomb going down over Sunday lunch (just kidding). I’m what the gay community call, straight acting – people never perceive me to be gay when they first meet me, and until I tell them, or they see my music collection and my list of favourite films, they would never guess.
I came out when I was 21ish, just after university and have had some serious relationships. The most recent ending after two years because he ran off with a hairdresser (you couldn’t write this shit) and the most recent, enjoying a drink too often – not a bad thing except drink lead to random strangers in his bed! Maybe I did a lot wrong and these reasons where more escape routes for the other person? I do have high expectations from a partner, honesty and monogamy being the most important, but I truly think I’m a pretty good boyfriend all in all. Ah well I suppose this blog will help me to see if I am or not – or at the very least I will learn, not to a) sneeze in a dates face or b) shit the bed. Thanks for coming with me, it will be a blast.
Dan